I feel like I’m constantly on the hunt for the perfect way to spend time on myself. So often when people have kiddos, their “me time” gets put on the back burner. We want the very best for them, and this often means we forget about the self TLC that we need. I’ve started looking for ways to give myself that time, and have found a few that seem to be working for me! I thought that I would share them with you today on the blog in hopes that they will help some of you too! We’ve got this mamas!
Dress for Success(ful) Me Time!
I have said this so many times before so I just want to mention it briefly. I am a firm believer it’s truly important for mental health to wear items that make us look and feel our best. I for one am most comfortable in a easy to through on top (mine is $10 FYI and I’m wearing a Medium) and jeans – like I am wearing in these pics. Quick side note, how gorgeous are these lupine flowers that we found! Anyways… this is what I would call step 1. Even if you are unable to get out of the house, putting on an outfit where you feel confident can give us such a boost! And take 5 minutes to throw on simple makeup. Tarte products are really great for that and they are natural. Anyway, I feel like this first step is a crucial step for me during my me time, because when I think I look decent, I feel so much better. And “me time” is ALL about feeling good and self care! Ok no to the real tips!
Tip 1: Have Your Me-Time Scheduled
One of the ways that I have found that I am able to get the most me-time in, is to have it permanently built into the schedule! 2-3 times a week, I have chunks of time (whether they are 10 minutes, or 2 hours) on my calendar where I use that time to do whatever I want to do, just for me. I go to hot yoga, or meet a up with a friend, or get my nails done. Or really whatever I feel like doing during that time! The 2 hours time slots are usually once every month or two (let’s be real), but I like to schedule in 30 mins here and there throughout the week to stay sane. I totally recommend getting a planner, like this one, and using it to keep track of your (crazy busy) schedule! I use a planner, white board in my kitchen AND my phone to try to keep track of… well – life with kids!
By planning this time into your schedule, you are making a commitment to yourself. I know it seems hard to plan me-time into your schedule when your life revolves around your kiddos, BUT this time for yourself benefits the both of you. It gives you the recharge that you need in order to be your best self for you little babes! For you, that may be going on a walk, getting to the gym, or even just time to read a book. One suggestion that I recently read about was making a list of things that you like to do for yourself that take different increments of time, like 10 minutes, 30 minutes, an hour.. etc. That way when it comes time for your scheduled me time, or you happen to have a moment to yourself organically, then you can remember all the things you love to do for yourself that fit into that time frame!
You might have noticed in my post the other day that I got in some pool time! I scheduled some childcare so that I could take a little time to myself and tan by the pool with a virgin cocktail! I cannot tell you the last time I did that! Oh! And I have to mention that my swimsuit top is only $7. I know this post isn’t about my purchases, but I cannot NOT share this since it is so cheap! I’ll pop the photo in here again so you can see what I mean! It has the perfect amount of coverage, especially if your girls are like mine and don’t look like they used to. Ha! I also found sunnies identical to mine for only $9.
Tip #2 : Hair Goals
As moms, it’s no secret that a lot of the time we just throw our hair up and call it a day. Sometimes it is days before we actually get around to showering, let alone washing our hair! For me, this is a big one and it has slowly gotten a little easier now that both Molly and Riley are sleep trained. BUT I have come to realize that having my hair done is such a treat for me – and that is why this trick is all about treating your hair like the gorgeous built-in accessory that it is!
There are multiple ways to do this! First of all, I would make sure that all of your hair appointments (for cut and color) are scheduled well in advance. That way no matter what, you know that you will be getting treated at least that one time. Not to mention that a lot of the time when it actually becomes time to get our hair done, we are busy and so is our hairdresser! It becomes a Tetris game trying to find free time in both the hairdressers schedule and our own that work together. So definitely, definitely plan those in advance! You will feel so much better knowing that it is on the calendar and when it comes around (faster than you would think) it will feel so great to get that time to yourself.
Another way that you could treat yourself that can happen as often or as little as you like would be to get a blow out! I know this idea may seem slightly far fetched at first, but just hear me out. One of the most relaxing feelings, at least for me, is having a scalp massage! When you get a blow out, not only do they blow try your hair, but they give you a full wash. And the time it takes, is basically equivalent to the time that it would take to do it yourself – without the distractions! Usually about 35-45 minutes, including wash and dry time! If you could get in just an hour to leave the house, this would be the perfect quick pampering treatment, that will leave you with clean hair, that is styled and ready to go! Usually for me, this means that I am now in the clear of washing my hair for a couple of days! Not to mention you guys feel all around put together!!!
The last hair tip doesn’t involve leaving the house! Much like getting yourself into one of your favorite outfits, having your hair done is one of the best go-to feel goods! Even if you can’t leave the house on a given day, just being able to do your hair can make life feel more put together. One of my friends recently recommended this Beachwaver, where you only have to section your hair into about five pieces! She said it takes her only about 5 minutes to have perfect hair. I haven’t tried it but I trust her. I found some refurbished ones that are almost 50% off! It curls the hair for you, and leaves you with flowy beachy waves! I know I will have to try it soon, so I thought I’d share it since it is such a fast option! I also use dry shampoo to make my hair last a little longer in between washes. I’m always switching it up regarding what I use, so here’s a bunch of options at different price points!
Tip #3: Trade Your Time with Friends
I know that it can become hard to get childcare just for me-time, especially if you’re on a budget! I have found the perfect solution for this! Remember how I said going to the blow dry bar only takes about an hour? Or how in my schedule, I set time for myself? There’s no doubt in my mind that your mama friends want this time for themselves too! So here’s where you use each other as the best form of care! Free care!
Swap hours watching the kids here and there so you can get in that much needed time for yourself, without worrying about the cost. You can drop your kids off for an hour while you head to get a blow out, grab some lunch on your own (or with another friend!), or head to a workout class. And you can offer the same to them! Mamas helping mamas, I love it! This is even something you can add into your schedule. Once a week, you can watch each others kids at the same exact time! This will even help with the kiddos schedules, because they will get used to this, even if it is only a short amount of time! I’ve just started doing this, and already loving it!
Truly, the time you spend on yourself matters! Even if it’s just a little bit here and there! Scheduling in some me time as made all the difference in the world for me, and I hope it helps you too! What do you do for yourself? I’d love to hear your suggestions in the comments below.