I went back and forth on whether or not I wanted to write about this topic – body after baby. Especially 10 days after giving birth. I finally decided to write about it because it’s an important topic to be open about, but I didn’t want you guys to think that I believe losing weight quickly after childbirth is something that should happen. Because I don’t think that at all. Everyone and every body is different. I guess I’ve just been surprised at how I look after giving birth to Riley because my body has reacted so differently than when I gave birth to Molly. And what is even more bizarre to me is that I thought I looked WAY skinnier when I was pregnant than I do now. And here I am 10 days after giving birth and still looking 5 months pregnant. I guess I’m just surprised by it all. This picture below was taken a week after I gave birth.
I gained about 45 lbs during this pregnancy (I think I gained 40 with Molly but I don’t remember), and when I got home from the hospital I got on the scale just because I was so curious how much weight I would instantly drop after giving birth. Well I went into the hospital at 185 lbs and when I got home from delivering an almost 9 lbs baby, I was still 179lbs! I couldn’t believe my eyes! After delivering Riley at almost 9 lbs, plus a placenta and all the extra amniotic fluid I was carrying, how did I only lose 6 lbs? Wouldn’t that mean I actually gained weight?! I know they pump you full of a ton of fluid at the hospital, but I was still very surprised by the number and a bit confused. Since then, I am now down to 159lbs so I dropped 20 lbs very quickly (it must have been fluid from the IV’s at the hospital!) but I still have 20 lbs to loose to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I am in no rush to get there, I know it will take time and I’m giving myself the time and grace to get there when it’s right for me.
I guess I just wanted to talk about it with you guys because it’s on my mind right now. And when I went shopping the other day (there is a Gap by our house and Kevin, Molly, Riley and I all walked over there together) I was pretty defeated to see that I couldn’t find anything I liked because nothing fit me right! And when we took family photos the other day, I couldn’t help but notice my big belly. My loose fitting dress hid it when standing, but it was obvious when sitting.
I think what is keeping me positive even when I start to get down on myself it my beautiful son. I look at him and know that would carry this weight for the rest of my life if it’s what needed to happen for me to get to have him in my life. Our bodies are incredible. We GROW human beings! When you really stop and think about that it’s nothing short of magic! I’ll sit and stare at all his fingers and toes and every little hair on his tiny body and think “wow, my body MADE you” It’s those moments that keep me positive and help me look in the mirror and instead of seeing the extra 20 lbs I’m carrying, I see a miracle. I see a strong woman that sacrifices for her children. I see beauty and love. I hope you all see the same when you look in the mirror each day.
So if any of you out there just had a baby and are feeling the same way, I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone! Especially if it’s baby #2! Anyone else out there lose the weight (and belly) super fast with their first baby but then it came off way slower with your second? With Molly, I think my tummy was at least 80% back to normal 7 days in. But with Riley, I still look 5 months pregnant 10 days in. Would love to hear all your stories. Even if you lost the weight fast for all your babies! Or maybe you never lost the weight. We are all different and have unique stories and that’s ok! Let’s discuss in the comments below.