Who is Arie REALLY falling for? I wish I had some sort of clue, but I just don’t. I was disappointed to see him tell 3 girls he was falling for them and then leading one to believe he was falling for her by saying something like “I wish I could tell you everything I’m feeling”. Why?!? I like Arie but I just wish he was more honest with the girl about his feelings and honest with HIMSELF! Anyway, forgive me if I talk in circles in this post and forgive typos! I really wanted to get this up as soon as possible for you guys and I wrote it EXHAUSTED last night. So with that said, let’s break down last night’s episode.
If I had to guess, I’d say Kendall’s hometown was most likely the last of the four hometowns. Why would they fly all the way back to Los Angeles for her hometown then go to the others and then fly back to Los Angeles for the rose ceremony? It just doesn’t make sense. Plus when Arie saw her for the first time on her hometown date, he said that it had been too long. Which makes me think that they definitely didn’t film this hometown first. Because technically the first hometown is just a day or two after the last date. And she was on the two-on-one with Krystal not long ago.
I just don’t understand why Arie told Kendall that he was falling for her. I just feel like it’s almost impossible to be falling in love with FOUR people at the same time. So by telling her that he was falling for her, it was almost like saying she should feel safe that she’s not going home this week. What do you guys think? I don’t know, I was just so careful about who I said those things to on my season. In fact, I only told two guys anything even remotely close to that all season long.
I have to say that it was really cool to see how emotionally in-tune Kendall’s entire family is. They all seem to know her so well and just seem to read people very well. I remember when I took the bachelor to my hometown, my entire family & I were just kind of giddy at the whole experience. It was hard to sit back and look at everything and ask if it could actually work. I just really respect her family to be able to separate the cameras and the excitement of The Bachelor coming to their house and really hone in on the relationship that is or isn’t developing between them. It’s no wonder Kendall is so grounded and analytical. She definitely gets it from her family
Tia’s brother obviously scared the shit out of Arie. Heck, I was a bit intimidated by him just watching. But I have to say I love that he just flat out called Arie out on being known as “the kissing bandit” and on the rumors that he is a playboy. I’m not sure I believe the rumors. Just because once you become The Bachelor or Bachelorette, people tend to make stuff up about you so I’m choosing to ignore those rumors. I think there’s just as good of a chance they aren’t true as they are true so I’m choosing to ignore them.
And similar to how I feel that Arie made Kendall think she’s potentially the one, he did the same thing with Tia. When she told him she was in love with him, he said that he wishes he could tell her everything he’s feeling. But the way he said it wasn’t like he was warning her, it was more like he was saying he’s feeling the same way she is. And we obviously know he wasn’t, because ultimately he sent her home. I don’t know if Arie is nervous and saying things because of nerves or if he is purposely trying to throw the girls, and all of us, off. But what he says and what ends up happening just don’t match up for me. Just like last week when he passionately kissed Bekah on the two-on-one date and then sent her home. His actions just aren’t matching up with how he’s handing out the roses. Anyone else agree?
I don’t know if you guys are going to agree with me on this, but I really feel that it is a massively big deal that Arie and Becca aren’t on the same page in terms of religion. I know Arie is saying that he is open to going to church and being a part of Becca’s life in that way, but from everything I’ve ever read when I used to study couples and intimacy in college, and from everything I’ve experienced in my own life, if you aren’t on the same page in terms of religion, it just won’t work. Some of you may know this, but my thesis in college was on couples and therapy and one of the biggest predictors of the relationship not working out was being on different pages regarding religion. Finances was the number one issue. But religion was a close second. Maybe studies have changed since then, but that’s just what I think. I would love to know what you guys think in the comments below. And I would especially love to know if anyone out there has stories of being married to someone that is on a totally different page than them spiritually and religiously. How do you guys make it work? I don’t only welcome people that have a different opinion than me on this topic but I’d love to hear more about people‘s experiences. But with that said, even though it can work if you’re on different pages when it comes to religion, that doesn’t mean it’s likely to work. In my opinion, if you’re able to work it out you’re the exception, not the rule. And yes I’m quoting the movie He’s Just Not That Into You. Ha!
Anyway, Arie also told Becca’s mom and uncle that he is falling for her. So at this point in my recap he has basically told all three girls that he is falling for them. I’m counting what he said to Tia. Because the message he was sending is the same.
I mean did anyone really find it shocking that there was weird silence between Arie and Lauren’s family when he got there? Lauren and Arie‘s entire relationship has been awkward silences.
I didn’t really love when Arie sat down with Lauren‘s mom. I think it’s great that she flat out asked him if he was saying the same things to all the other people on hometowns. And honestly, he is kind of saying the same thing to every family and every girl. Every time he tells a girl that he’s falling for her, he’s leading her to believe that she is the only one he’s falling for. Or at least someone special. But it’s not special at all when he says it to every single one of the girls left. And look, hometowns are really hard on the bachelor or bachelorette. It’s super awkward that you’re dating someone’s daughter/son, as well as three other people at the same time, and you have to somehow explain that to the parents. It’s hard. But it’s especially hard in Arie’s case since he is really making each girl feel like she’s going to be the one. And I’m not saying he’s doing this on purpose. I don’t think he’s a bad guy. I just think he really sucks at dating multiple girls at once. Ha! And honestly, that’s a compliment. When you’re good at dating multiple people at once that’s a bigger warning sign in my mind.
And of course, I don’t even have to say it but yes, Arie also said he was falling in love with Lauren. He’s told every single girl that at this point! And what really kills me is when Lauren told her mom that she didn’t think he would say he was falling deeply in love with her, if he was saying it to all the other girls. Well, I guess he didn’t use the word “deeply” when he said it to the other girls, but he has said it to every other girl! (Ok not the exact words to Tia but he basically insinuated it with what he said to her that I discussed above). I guess that right there tells you that Lauren doesn’t really know Arie at all. Gosh, I’m just so bummed about how this season is turning out. Only because I really like Arie and I really want this to work out for him and whoever he ends up choosing but it’s just isn’t looking great right now.
Anyway, I was super bummed to see Tia go home but I knew it was either going to be Kendall or Tia. To be honest with you I really thought it was going to be Kendall so I was a little bit surprised. But either way, Kendall will be the next one to go home and it will most likely come down to Becca and Lauren. I have no idea who he’ll pick between the two of them though! So yes, as there is every week, there’s so much to discuss! What do you think about Arie telling every single girl he’s falling for her? Were you surprised to see Tia go home like I was? And who do you think he is going to end up with in the end? Let’s discuss!
And while you are here check out all my looks from this week. There are A LOT because I did a post about packing for vacation and it included multiple looks. But they are GOOD ones so I had to share all of them below. And if you want to buy the shoes in any oft he first 5 looks below just use my code ALILUVSBORN2 at checkout for 15% off!