Update: THIS DRESS is the one Rachel was wearing at After The Final Rose for those wondering.
Original blog post:
I was sad to see Eric go. As you guys know, I got to sit down with him recently and I really got to know the real Eric. He is such a good guy and I know he will find love! Instead of writing about Eric, I am just going to give you Part 2 of the interview I did with him. And don’t be mad at me, but when I wrote yesterday’s blog post I knew Rachel didn’t pick him, but I couldn’t give anything away! I really appreciated Eric opening up to me, and I wanted to make sure I wasn’t giving anything away. Here is what he has to say about his breakup with Rachel and whether or not he would consider being the next Bachelor!
We wish you the best Eric!!!!
Forgive me in advance but most of this blog is going to be about Peter because he was a very hot topic on Twitter last night and a topic that I think should be discussed. So the question is, should you be expected to propose to someone if you go on the show? My thoughts? HELL NO! Not unless you feel 100% ready to propose to THAT person at the end. Just because he wasn’t ready to propose to her, that doesn’t mean he isn’t ready in general.
Can we really blame Peter for not being ready to propose to someone after only knowing them a couple months? Actually it’s 2.5 months to be more accurate. I think it’s totally normal not to feel ready. And let’s be honest here, the majority of the couples that get engaged end up breaking up after the show (myself included!). I respect his decision to want to save his only first shot at proposing to someone for when he feels it in his bones. Honestly, looking back, I’m kind of disappointed that I got engaged on the show. I knew I didn’t know the guy I picked in the end well enough, but I decided to accept the proposal anyway. And it kind of bums me out that Kevin’s proposal to me wasn’t the only time I said yes to someone. Does that make sense?
I’ve talked about this before but you really don’t fall in love with the person you meet on the show. Yes my relationship didn’t work, so obviously mine wasn’t real love. But even if you ask many of the couples who are married from the show, they will tell you that they really fell in love after the show is over. I believe to love someone is to know someone. You really can’t do this on the show. Is it possible to get to know someone in 2 1/2 months? Of course it is! But not when you’re dating a bunch of other guys at the same time and spending maybe a couple hours a week (if that) with each one. Having gone through it myself, I just don’t really think it’s possible to get to know someone in the scenario of the show.
Also I TOTALLY think it’s possible to feel like someone could be your husband or wife after spending just minutes with them! I believe in that feeling of lust at first sight! Or just having a feeling that this person is meant to be your husband or wife! But again, I think a lot of people feel this way after a really great first date. So looking back, yeah hindsight is 20/20. Like I said above, I just really feel like to truly love someone, you have to know them.
And some people tweeted me that Peter should have been ready to propose because that’s the expectation of the show he went on. That makes no sense to me whatsoever! Maybe he did go on hoping to meet someone and propose. But the fact of the matter is he didn’t feel ready WITH RACHEL at the point in which he was expected to propose. So maybe he would have gotten there with her at some point, but in the exact time frame of the show he didn’t get there, and he shouldn’t be criticized for that! He was totally open with Rachel about it every step of the way. It’s not like he blindsided her with it when he was in the top two!
He also flat out asked her if she could tell him that he was the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and she told him she couldn’t answer that question. I know many of you are going to think that the producers wouldn’t let her answer that question, but at this point in the show she could and SHOULD answer it if Peter really was the one for her. I just don’t think she knew who she wanted to be with at that point in the show (or she was leaning towards Bryan) and I could see why that would make Peter even more hesitant to get down on one knee. Don’t you? Peter said it best “Marriage doesn’t scare me. The idea of multiple marriages scares me.” AMEN to that!!!
I also have to say that I completely respect Rachel’s decision to push Peter by questioning him on why he’s not ready to propose. I obviously don’t think she should pressure him into proposing, but she has every right to ask him questions about why he’s feeling the way he’s feeling. I think she was seeing red flags of past relationships in Peter’s hesitation and I think it’s good that she was seeing those and questioning those things. Because at the end of the day, I don’t think Peter fell for her in the same way that she fell for him, otherwise maybe he would’ve felt ready to propose on the show. It’s good that they talked about it as much as they did because ultimately they parted ways which is what’s best for both of them.
And at the end of the day, Rachel made the best choice for her, and I couldn’t be happier for her! It’s obvious that she and Bryan have intense chemistry and I wish them nothing but the best! It’s funny because most seasons I feel like I have a pretty good handle on who is going to win in the end, and Bryan just totally came out of nowhere for me! But I kind of love that! I feel like it’s not as fun every season when I think I know who wins in the first couple weeks. The season was a mystery to me and I loved every second of it!
So congrats to Rachel and Bryan! Bryan seems like a really nice person and he and Rachel obviously love each other very much! I wish them so much happiness!!!
And forgive for not having more “finale appropriate” photos for this post. I guess I just hope Bryan and Rachel end up as happy as I feel right now with my little family 🙂