Lauren B and Ben are obviously the cutest. At one point he says, “This is what I would want my first date with my wife to be like.” By saying that, he is certainly dropping us a huge hint that she is a frontrunner in his mind, maybe even the one he thinks he’ll end up with.
We see Calia break down while Ben is on his date with Lauren B and I totally understand where she is coming from. I know that many of you probably think, “well, she knew what she was signing herself up for” and I couldn’t disagree more. In fact, I would argue that she had NO IDEA what she signed herself up for. The majority of people who go on the show don’t go on actually thinking they will find love. The contestants usually go on thinking it will be an really fun experience. But then what happens is people are shocked when they do actually start falling in love, and the reality that you are falling for a guy that multiple other women are falling for really starts to set in. And this realization is especially hard when you get the first 1-on-1 date. I got the first date on my season of The Bachelor and I remember feeling special and feeling like I was the only girl that The Bachelor had really connected with. But then as I saw other girls come home giddy from their dates, it crushed me. It’s hard to explain but really something you can’t understand unless you’ve been through it.
I have a love/hate relationship with Jubilee this week. Let’s start with her dinner convo with Ben where she opened up about her loss. It was heartbreaking, honest and real. Normally, dinner convo’s on this show are all “What are you looking for in a husband? Do you want kids?” Weird stuff that you would normally never talk about on a first or second date. Not that you would normally talk about heavy emotional stuff either on a normal first date, but at least it was real and not just a topic the show wants you to awkwardly discuss. That said, come of her behavior was disturbing. There is nothing I hate more than when a girl says “I don’t get along with girls.” WHAT?!?! So you don’t get like or get along with yourself? I am sick of women acting like it’s such a chore to get along with other women. Like we are so complicated that we can’t even understand each other. It’s one thing to say, I tend to hang with the boys more. But to say that you don’t get along with girls at all, I’m just not cool with that. When do we ever hear guys say “I just don’t get along with other dudes.” The answer – we don’t hear them say that.
Ok, now I’m back to defending Jubilee (I told you – love/hate relationship. Ha!). It really upset me how worked up the girls were getting about her giving Ben a back massage. On any other rose ceremony night, I would get it, but not at this rose ceremony. That night was BIGGER than the show to Ben and everyone should have put their feelings to the side and focused on his feelings. Something somewhat similar happened during my season of the Bachelor. Not similar in the way you think, but similar in the fact that big real life issues became more important than what was happening on the show. One of the girls my season (Rozalyn Pappa) hooked up with on of the producers, and that producer lost his job. Many of the girls that night (not my cool friends obvi) were crying for Jake and saying how unfair it was for Jake. I remember thinking “WTF – what about the man who just lost his job?!?” What about the REAL LIFE pain he is now going through.” Jake didn’t even know Rozalyn so it just wasn’t the real issues that night in my mind. That’s kind of how I feel about what Ben’s going through. His REAL LIFE, heartbreaking situation should be all that matters. Not stupid one-on-one time during a rose ceremony. And news flash – the few minutes you get at the rose ceremony are not going to be the difference between staying and leaving. Trust me.
Ben didn’t seem too upset about Lace leaving. But her decision and reasoning to leave was the most sane and mature thing she said all season.
Overall, I felt so stressed last night after watching the show. Between Ben’s loss and all the drama with the girls, it was just a lot to take in. I can’t imagine what it must be like for Ben to handle, but he seems to be doing a great job of taking it all in stride. Good luck Ben! No really, I feel like you’re going to need it.
That’s all from me! Until next time…