Here is a question I get ALL the time. What REALLY happens in the fantasy suites? Yup, everyone wants to know if the Bachelors and Bachelorettes are getting down and dirty behind closed doors. Well, simply put, the answer is YES. So did they really “stay up for hours talking”? Well yeah they did, but let’s be real. The hours of talking happened after a few minutes of moaning – longer if you’re lucky 😉
Are there a few Bachelor/ette’s who didn’t do the nasty in the fantasy suites? Yeah sure. Sean Lowe was pretty vocal about keeping his “born again V card” during his season and I don’t think Emily Maynard even had fantasy suites. But other than those two, I’d be willing to bet ALMOST everyone else hooked up with at least one of their final 3. Noticed I said ALMOST everyone else. Can I be sure everyone did? Of course not. But us Bachelor contestants tend to hang out together. We’re a big Bachelor family. And from what I’ve heard, while hanging out with my family, is that people CAN’T WAIT to tear each others clothes off once the cameras stop rolling. Think about all the sexual tension building up for weeks, for months! I remember feeling like a kid and the camera crew/producers were my “mom” keeping an eye on me when I was with a boy. Closing the door to the fantasy suite was kicking mom out of the room and letting our teenage hormones go wild! Ha. I know that sounds weird, But it’s the best way I can describe it.
What’s more interesting, in my mind, is what happens after the couples are able to act on their sexual tension. This is where the hours of talking come into play and where the teenage, hormonal attraction can actually turn into a real relationship, True feelings, beyond just the physical. Some of you might think I’m being insensitive to conversations that are had up until this point. Sorry if you feel that way, but I’m just telling the truth. You don’t REALLY know anyone up until this point. You’re having conversations with people you BARELY know about if they want kids and if they are ready to be engaged – when what your really saying is, are you ready for kids WITH ME? Are you ready to be engaged TO ME? So weird to talk about this stuff with someone you barely know. My boyfriend and I didn’t have those conversations until we were together for 2 years! And think about it this way. You’ve spent soooo little time together. If I had to guess, you spend less than 30 hours with each person up until the fantasy suites. Crazy right? And then you get engaged a week later! It’s all so insane. But in a good way! I know so many people who said they knew they would marry their husband or wife the first day they met them. Can that happen on this show? Of course! Does that mean you really KNOW the person going into the fantasy suites. Not really.
The great thing about the fantasy suites happening a week early this season is that Kaitlyn will have so much more clarity on who she should be with in the end. Those HOURS of talking will take all of her convoluted emotions and help her see who she really has a connection with – when the cameras are off.
Can’t wait to see what happens on Monday! What do you guys think about my thoughts on the fantasy suites? Are you surprised? Does anything I said shock you? Sound off in the comments below.
Come back tomorrow for my full Blog on tonight’s Bachelorette