Ok let’s talk about the “Shawn really hates Nick” show, as Nick calls it. Because many of you out there seem to have a real problem with this season of the Bachelorette. So I’m not even going to bother calling it the Bachelorette this time around. So let’s get into it.
We got to relive Ian and all his asshole-ness from last week. I really hate how he kept saying “you told us to be honest,” because there is a big difference between honesty and being super rude. Didn’t your momma ever tell you that if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all? It’s really good advice and you should try following it.
Right before the rose ceremony someone said “there’s always something. Every rose ceremony.” I couldn’t see who said it, but he was totally right!!! Poor Kaitlyn. She has had to deal with so much this season. I really hope it ends after tonight’s episode but based on the previews for next week, it doesn’t look like it. And it was so annoying that some of the guys were worried about getting time, when Kaitlyn was obviously hurting. They MUST have known how Ian felt about Kaitlyn, Nick clearly knew. And Nick was the only one who got right up and went to go check on Kaitlyn. They could have followed and checked on her too. Or they could have gone to interrupt them. Shawn did finally decide to go interrupt and did not like what he saw, and I don’t blame him. Ugh. I remember when I was the Bachelorette and I had to be SO careful about kissing the guys and other guys seeing. I mean OBVIOUSLY you’re going to kiss more than one guy when you are expected to find your husband out of 25 random guys in less than 3 months. Intimacy matters in a relationship and you have to test the waters!
Nick gets the first 1-on-1 date – no real surprise there, but the guys HAVE GOT to be nervous at this point. She let him join the group, the next week he gets the group date rose, and now he gets the 1-on-1? They must be worried about her connection with him and they should be! Her dates with Nick seem the most natural to me. More natural than any dates I’ve ever seen on the Bachelorette. All the dates are always too serious or too awkward and with Nick, it just seems normal. I’m into it. And obviously so was Kaitlyn.
So let me just dive into this topic by saying slut shaming is NOT COOL! What is wrong with people?!?! I mean really. It makes me SO angry that there is such a double standard in this world when it comes to men and women having sex. I can assure you that Kaitlyn is NOT the first person to have sex with someone on the show. In fact, I would argue that 95% of the Bachelors and Bachelorette DO have sex on the show. Sure, Kaitlyn did it before the infamous fantasy suite, but does that really matter? I’ve heard Mike Fleiss (the creator of the show) say that one of the Bachelors had sex with something like 6 of his 25 women!!! I’m not going to say who that Bachelor is, but people didn’t slut shame him. So stop judging Kaitlyn for following her heart annnnnnd her vagina 😉
And ya ya ya, I realize Kailtyn told Shawn that he was the “one” and it wasn’t exactly fair to say that and then go sleep with Nick. But hear me out… I told Roberto he was the “one” on our first date and then when I went out with Frank, I connected with him on such a deep level that I thought he was actually the one for me. It’s very obvious that this is the “Kaitlyn digs Shawn and Nick show” and not, as Nick calls it, the “Shawn really hates Nick show.” So yes, she may go back and forth between the guys. She might end up sleeping with both guys. But like I said above, I ASSURE you, she is not the first Bachelorette to sleep with a guy and CERTAINLY not the first to sleep with two guys.
And Shawn, you fineeeee specimen of a man, pleeeease don’t get into your head to much. I remember having to talking to Frank for hours about trusting me and telling him not to worry or not to question our relationship. It’s pretty common for that to happen with the people you have the strongest connection with. I totally get why Shawn was upset when he didn’t get the group date rose, but he needs to understand that Kaitlyn probably wanted to give it to him but couldn’t. If she gave the group date rose to the guy she wanted to every date, Nick and Shawn would get every single group date rose. There would be no show because most of the guys would want to leave. Put yourself in her shoes, do you REALLY think it would take 3 months to narrow down a group of 25 guys to, let’s say, the top 3? Absolutely NOT! You do that the very first night. The rest of the “journey” is just going through the motions and trying to be as fair as possible to the guys that are there that you don’t have a connection with. Could a guy surprise you along the way that you didn’t initially have strong feelings for, yeah. But it’s not super likely and I think we can all tell Kaitlyn knows who her top 2 guys are already. Tanner basically pointed out that he isn’t a contender for Kaitlyn’s heart when he said “by the way my name is Tanner.” He gets that he doesn’t have a relationship with Kaitlyn and is surprised he keeps getting a rose. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out he wont be the last guy standing and there is absolutely nothing between them – yet, he’s still around.
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Thanks loves! Until next time…
Lastly, and most importantly (duh), I leave you with “Ian the Poop”