I’m a fan of yours, Ali, but I agree with what Sophia says. I get that you wanted Jed to feel as comfortable as possible, but it felt like you were defending much of his behaviour, partly by making comparisons (such as between him and yourself) that were apples and oranges

Jumping in to defend my fellow emotional person! I’m very much like Hannah in that when I’m in, I’m all in. In every single one of my relationships I’ve given it my all every single day, and because of this, when it’s over, it’s truly over with a clean slate for me. No regret, because I have truly given it my all when it mattered, and I feel like that’s exactly what it is with Luke and Hannah. She gave him more chances than he deserved, so when she realized that this was it, she had no problem closing the door on that chapter. Same goes with Jed – what was it she said, she gave him all of her and he didn’t do that in return? So when it’s time to let go, we have nothing left to give. Also in Jed’s case he truly messed up. Like there are things you can forgive, but there are things you just can’t get over. And this situation, it was truly the latter.

I was really glad to hear him given a fair chance on the podcast. I think everyone can see he led a girl on back home, then downplayed it to his new fiance, but I liked how that was put in perspective on the podcast. He shouldn’t have led her on, he shouldn’t have lied about it to Hannah, but those aren’t the worst things done in bachelor history. I believe he did fall for Hannah, and he’s getting all this hate for being a master manipulator which is ott. Lots of people ghost old girlfriends and avoid the subject, it’s perfectly normal cowardly behaviour, and we’ve all behaved cowardly at some point in our lives, he’s been punished enough. The behavior’s been called out and we all need to move on and learn from it.