Not all women want to get married and have children, but are made to feel badly (and like they are “running out of time” and expiring because of THAT). Their parents want grandkids, people tell them they will regret it, etc… I don’t think the “timeline” for having kids matters if you aren’t ready, because it’s NOT more important to have bio kids than to have bio kids because you want to and are ready to be a good parent. The time pressure is there whether a woman is in an abusive relationship, mentally fragile and unable to parent, lacking the desire to have kids and happy with life as is, etc… people push women to hurry up and get married and have kids whether or not they want to. I don’t think women should try to “beat the clock” to have bio kids… there are more important things than having bio kids and this timeline pressure totally annoys me.

Congrats Karen! I’m turning 39 next week and unfortunately just failed on my second IVF attempt. We will try again next month but the clock ticks so loudly in the background I can hardly stand it. I sincerely hope I will have success eventually, as you did. Best of luck with your pregnancy!

I am so sorry that their personal opinions took away from your grieving experience. You deserve to do life on your own timeline and without knowing you, I’m sure that your mother would be proud no matter what path you take, so long as you’re happy & healthy. Best of luck.