Comments on: Mom Friends – Things Have Certainly Changed

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 17 Oct 2016 03:28:53 +0000

Ali,

Thank you for this post! I’ve happily been following along with your pregnancy as it aligned with mine and it was always both comforting and insightful to hear your thoughts and feelings through this amazing transition into motherhood. It just so happened that our littles were born on the same day… And your blog posts have really helped me put into words some of the joys and struggles of this journey! Just yesterday in fact, I went to my first movie date with my close non-momma friends since babe was born, and I had anxiety going into it because I had no idea what I was going to talk about. These are girls that I’ve known for YEARS, traveled with, drank copious amounts of wine with, gushed about guys with etc.. And yet my life has now become so different (and wonderful! But soooo different) and suddenly it made me very sad that something as simple as a glass of wine and a movie date made me nervous. I love them just the same of course, but things have changed, and, as I find myself talking to my momma friends about baby poo, sleep training, sleep deprivation, and our latest tricks for finding time to shower… I struggle to find the energy to talk about some of the things I used to enjoy, like the latest Hollywood gossip, my newest shoe purchase (ha! Try slippers to wear during labour in the hospital!) etc. One thing that does bring me comfort is knowing that these girls love me to pieces, as I them… And in time, things will balance out a bit and I think we’ll both find a couple more minutes in the day to check in with our non momma friends, to talk about the latest Hollywood gossip, to share some wine (more than one glass, ha!), and talk about our latest non flat/slipper shoe purchases. It’ll come. Right now these adorable little babes require a lot, and it’s only natural for that to consume a lot of the daily conversation. And I think it’s comforting to find others that can relate, and share similar stories and experiences. But, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t sad, and I may have shed a few tears last night when I got home and things just seemed “off” …but at the end of the day, I love this new life of mine, and I embrace my momma and non momma friends, and, by the sounds of it, you’re doing a great job finding a balance as well 🙂 keep up the awesome blogging momma! 🙂

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 16:28:20 +0000

I can totally relate to this, before I became a mom, I had a lot of “Mommy friends.” I never understood why they would not pick up the phone when I called or why hanging out was less and less, we were still really good friends, but it was just different. I missed my girl time. I recall, when I had my bachelorette party (it was a weekend shingdig at a resort) two of my mommy friends were saying how upset they were because they would have to leave their little ones for 1-2 nights. I just didn’t understand. I now see how selfish I was for not understanding their feelings, because I look at my life now and just could not image leaving my little one for a weekend.

Things are just different now, but it’s a REALLY good different 🙂

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 00:32:55 +0000

Your post makes perfect sense to me! My friendships have all changed, in some way or another. Well stated- my new BFF is my baby, too.

I’m just now getting around to writing you a comment, but I read all your posts and LOVE reading baby updates and your ups and downs as a new mom. I’m a few weeks behind you, with our sweet little girl, Ellie. She’s 11 weeks tomorrow. We’ve also noticed she loves to be outside! It’s really fascinating.

Thanks for being honest about parenthood and sharing your adventures. Bed time here! <3